In most cases, individuals placed become part of their providers’ families, who, by and large, find the experience to be positive and meaningful in their lives. This is true for Monica Romain, a Dungarvin Host Home provider in Aurora, Colorado, who has been supporting Carmen, 48, in her home for 22 years.
Monica worked in the medical field for most of her life prior to becoming a Host Home provider with Dungarvin. However, before supporting Carmen, she had no experience working with people who have intensive behavior support needs.
At first, it wasn’t easy, Monica said, because Carmen is nonverbal and would sometimes become aggressive, yelling or throwing things when she wasn’t able to express her needs. But relying on the training she received from Dungarvin, as well as support from staff, Monica learned how to support Carmen, helping her realize a life full of love, family and engagement with her community.
“At first, it was really challenging. But I took it step by step, one problem at a time,” Monica said. She helped Carmen address her medical concerns, which helped with her daily comfort, and she learned how to redirect Carmen to express her frustration in more constructive ways.
Monica assists Carmen with personal care and routines, including dressing, hygiene, medications, meals, and safe transfers between her wheelchair, bed, vehicle and other settings. She prides herself on being able to support Carmen, as well as two other individuals who live with her, and easily determine Carmen’s needs and wants. She said she loves being a Dungarvin Host Home provider because it has allowed her to work from home, and she now feels confident supporting other individuals who have complex support needs.
“I like that I get to care for somebody … either because their family couldn’t take care of them or they were just having challenging behaviors,” she said, adding that her daughters and sisters are also Host Home providers.
“I love opening my home to people with special needs,” Monica said. “I hear from others all the time: ‘Oh, you are so wonderful; it takes a special person to do this.’ And, yes, it does. But I just love bringing them to their appointments. We go on outings, we go to my family gatherings. They go to church with me, we go to movies; and they join us on vacations, too.”